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[quote=Anonymous]My youngest sister has struggled with depression and anxiety and possibly more for years. She's still not yet 30. She has had a lot of bad lucky with shitty jobs, money problems, etc. while also burning a lot of bridges everytime something bad happens because she is convinced that starting over again will somehow make everything better. I've worked to get her into therapy, gave her questions to ask her doctors, helped her find jobs, coached her through relationships (familial/friend), gave her a place to live for awhile, tried to give her the knowledge she needs to move out on her own and learn to adult (something our parents didn't do). I've been supportive, I've been angry (mostly to myself), and I admit I've not been the best older sibling during her ordeal since I had some bouts of depression myself during that period.

That being said, she made some hard choices that I didn't necessarily agree with about a year ago. I didn't voice my dissent, I was fully supportive because she was convinced what she needed. And lo and behold, she did make a lot of progress on her mental health. I was so proud of her and told her so. I stepped back to let her grow in her confidance that she could adult, I redirected to her therapist when I wasn't capable of playing that role myself, and despite her not holding down a job or having health insurance (which I keep telling myself is not my problem to figure out), she was living on her own and working towards her dream.

This week she slide back. Like way back to a year ago. Screaming, angry, cutting off people right and left and sobbing about wanting to give up and go home - which she doesn't actually want, she cut off our parents. She's just full on hate and sadness, ripping into hers and everyone else's faults. Crying so hard on the phone I can't understand her. Not sure what triggered her, there's no drugs or alcohol in the picture - she had some interviews and it seems they didn't go well. Not what she wanted or was expecting.

I feel awful. I literally have no idea what to do for her anymore. I can't even be upset with her like I have been - the anger at least made me more stable and capable of helping her in the long run in some ways because I could be less partial, more like a rock of common sense to get her through the hysteria. Part of me wants to sob because I feel like I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know what support or advice or anything I have left to give her. She needs more than just love at this point. Theste other part of me is numb and it's like watching her drown with a glass wall in the way so there's nothing I CAN do. I'm horrified I feel this way.

I'm losing my sister and I don't think I can stop it. She won't let anyone else help her. [/quote]

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