Reply to Depressed, unemployed husband has me depressed

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Depressed, unemployed husband has me depressed"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]It's been 2.5 years since he had a job with benefits. Did some consulting, lost his contract due to depression (which he hid from me).

I do all I can to make a living but I'm not in a high-income field. We were supposed to be a two-income family. We haven't had a vacation since 2015. We don't eat in restaurants. We've had to take money from his mother. We had done everything right and had plenty saved for a layoff or emergency, but we didn't plan on 2.5 years with no end in sight.

I worry constantly. I have developed extreme insomnia and have almost no appetite. Someone complimented me on how thin I am and I burst into tears. I'm not dieting, I'm grieving that the person I married is completely non functional.

He goes to therapy and takes a few different psych medications. None of it has made him bear down and work.

He's got no interests or hobbies. He complains a lot or worse yet, just sort of whimpers so it's loud and clear to everyone that he's tired and miserable.

He's been gone a couple of weeks helping out a relative and I realize the only thing he would be doing is walking the dog.

I'm so pissed, resentful, and tired. I didn't sign up for this and I see no sign it's going to change.

I'm in my mid 40s. He got my best years. I'm still very attractive and could find someone, but this experience makes me hesitate to ever trust anyone again.

So I'm depressed as hell. This is the third summer when I've politely listened to people telling me about their vacations. We *might* go to a ball game. I hate what he's done to our life. I work constantly. I come home and ask what he's done and he's maybe applied to one job and taken a walk.

I don't know how anyone can stand being the only one with a job; maybe it's not so suffocating if you actually chose to be a one-income couple. I hate that I'm the only one who has to get up and go to work. Our teenager has school and homework. My husband just has his self pity and sloth.

My friends are telling me they don't think he'll ever get a job. So that's it - just like that, without my having any say in it, he nurses his depression and refuses to work, and it's all on me. And this is my life, because he doesn't value us enough to get his shit together.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics