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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree that I would try to offer financial assistance before encouraging him to move home, especially if he is otherwise happy in the city in which he lives.

It’s all in how you position this - I would try saying something like, “I know you are very happy in X and we would hate for you to give up that life and your friends, so it would make your father and I truly happy to support you financially until you find another job and feel more comfortable” If he balls at the idea, you could try offering the money as a loan that he can pay back if he wants but there is no pressure.[/quote]

This.

And I’m the parent of a 25 year old fully employed and step parent of a 24 year old in law school. They both had compelling reasons to crash with us and we paid expenses instead. We get along well with them, but chose to downsize when they both graduated (leaving just our youngest at home). It was our intention to help them if they needed it, but make it clear that living at home while unemployed for a long stretch was not an option. I saw how it destroyed my brother’s relationship with me and our parents.

This might be a good time for your son to go back to school. Grad school or a degree in another field. Looking for another server job at this point tells me he’s in a rut.  Bringing him home won’t fix that. [/quote]

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