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[quote=Anonymous]My husband thinks he doesn't get enough free time/personal time per day.  He wants 2 hours of free time per day to work out, read, etc.  Is this reasonable given our situation?

DH works 70 hour weeks, including 2 weekends per month, and travels about 4-5 times per month for 1-2 nights each.  I work part-time, about 15 hours per week, while DC is in morning preschool, which is all I can currently manage with DH's schedule.  We have one child, age 4.  No local family, no childcare, no cleaning lady, or other outside help.

Due to the nature of his job, DH cannot do any drop offs, pick ups, snow days or sick days so I do all of that.  DH is gone by the time we wake up so I do the morning routine, drop offs, pick ups, spend all afternoon/evening with DC until DH comes home, and all weekends that he's working.  I also do pretty much all the housework, grocery shopping, and cooking except yard work which DH does.  DH spends about 2-3 hours per day with DC on average except when he's working.  DC is constantly asking where Daddy is, what time Daddy will be home, and why is Daddy never home.  He is very aware that I am the main parent and DH is the secondary parent, and he's also very aware that he rarely sees Daddy.  We have no date nights ever due to DH's unpredictable work schedule and lack of reliable childcare help.

DH claims that it's "not fair" that I get 3 hours of free time after DC is in bed.  I explained that yes, I do stay up really late in order to get my free time, but that is my choice (I go to bed around 1 am).  DH goes to bed at 9 pm because he has to be at his desk by 6 am.  He's always complaining that DC goes to bed too late and he doesn't get time to himself in the evening.  In the summer, DC goes to bed at 9 pm and wakes up at 8:30 am.  In the winter he goes to bed earlier.

Please help us figure this situation out.  DH is constantly ornery about his lack of free time and long hours and in my opinion he doesn't spend enough time with DC given all the travel and the weekends that he is working.  DC is also constantly complaining about DH not spending enough time with him.  Due to the distance of his office from our house, it's not practical for me to bring DC to his office for lunch, etc. because DH gets 15 minutes for lunch or eats on the go.[/quote]

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