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[quote=Anonymous]I once had a professor in college consistently remind me that "the nature of relationships is always changing". He was going through a divorce at the time, and I've kept his words with me almost 15 years when it hit me a few days ago that I might be drifting apart from what I considered to be my best friend.

I met him over ten years ago and we hit it off right away. We went to the same grad school, had same interests in music and activities, and regularly travel to meet each other for long "bro weekends". After this most recent one over Memorial Day (in conjunction with other events I'll mention below). I love him like a brother, but I think I'm drifting away from him.

Some context: before I left for my trip, DW texted BF to let him know that things were not good between her and I. She regrets doing this now that things have been smoothed over, but I can tell it weirded BF out. I dont know why my wife decided to text him, as she's never done anything like that before. I guess she was reaching out for help but her timing was terrible as it was right before a long weekend that I desperately needed away from her. At any rate, he seemed a bit awkward about it like he didn't want to get too involved, which I understand completely.

The bigger issue is our world view and experiences are diverging in a way that feels strange to me. I live in a city with my wife and young child, I have a job that allows me to work from home with occasional travel. I have friends from all over the country and my worldview has been shaped by years of traveling and experience. He lives in a small college town where he grew up, he's never lived anywhere else or worked for anyone but the University he attended, and is completely enveloped in "that world". Raised by a very strong personality Mom, and currently domineered by his wife. I also think his sense of self-importance is inflated because of the myopic nature of the institution he works for and the town in which he lives. Problems and drama at the college seem to be literally all he cares to talk about, and I feel like we are growing apart. Has anyone else experienced this?

He and his wife and me and DW used to get together as couples for weekend travel, too, but they recently canceled a trip on us set for Labor Day because he couldn't get away from the University. We had already bought plane tix, game tix, AirBnB reservatoin after they told us  they were going to make it. I suppose that's partly on us, but I think it shows the level of commitment and engagement on their part. I was dissapointed about that, but understand the demands of work.

During our memorial day trip, I found myself in a bar with him in my old hometown, watching a baseball game that no one else in the place knew was even on. Of course it featured our college, and at some point the action shifted and one of "our guys" hit a home run. My BFF proceeds to stand up, start screaming and fist pumping, and I wanted to crawl in to the dirtiest corner of the bar and stay there until he left.

I feel like a first-rate a-hole having these feelings about him, but I cant shake it. Part of me wants to cancel the "bro trip" we have lined up for October-where I'll be spending a considerable amount of $$ flying to a place that is a 3 hour drive for him. I'm not sure what to do at this point, because I also feel like I'm holding some resentment about them canceling our couples trip.

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