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[quote=Anonymous]We have four under seven. The baby is three months old. Delivery was fast and tearing was minimal, so I was healed up enough for sex by five weeks. Since then we’ve been having sex twice a week, ish. DH is extremely sweet and does at least 50% of the home and kid related stuff when he’s home — earlier this week he went and put away all the laundry I’d been meaning to get to so that once the baby fell asleep I wouldn’t have anything I had to do and we could just hang out — and I don’t mind having sex with him. I just...don’t really want to. (As opposed to wanting not to — I feel fine saying no if there’s a reason for it, and do.)  It was like this with all our other kids, too — until my period comes back, I just don’t have any interest in sex. I get turned on enough for it to work mechanically, and I do my best to act like I’m enjoying myself, but frankly I wouldn’t miss it if we weren’t doing it. I initiate at least half the time, he doesn’t have complaints about frequency, but he hates that I don’t seem into it and he feels guilty. At the same time, he doesn’t want to not have sex again until I’m really enthused because that will be a while.

We’ve talked about it and don’t have any better ideas than to keep on as we are, but it’s frustrating for me to feel like I’m doing this nice thing for him and our marriage and he’s still disappointed. This is more sex than a lot of people WITHOUT babies have! Then again, duty sex isn’t exactly flattering and I can’t blame him for his emotions.  Anyone BTDT and have advice?[/quote]

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