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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]op: Thank you both for your responses, you are very kind.  I've been to other funerals in the past year, this was totally different, he was completely unlike any other 82 year old man, he was still working at 80 before he got cancer yet he would bake and cook with my daughters, he was always doing things for others.[/quote]

My dad passed away from cancer this year at 76.  He was truly special.  He moved and acted like somebody in his 50s/60s prior to cancer. He was such a devoted husband/father and the absolute best grandfather ever.  He touched so many people's lives and was truly larger than life---with a wit and sense of humor that had you falling down in stitches.  My kids were very, very close and he was with all of his grandsons.  Very involved in anything they did, always on the sidelines.  He was brilliant and would talk history and science with my oldest.  He was an incredible cook and loved Holidays, and everything about life.

I get what you mean when you said that it was weird to not have him there to say 'hello' or to say 'goodbye' at the funeral home.  It does feel like an amputation.  Life has lost some luster and I will never be the same.  My husband and BIL who weren't as close with their own fathers really took my dad's passing very hard as well.

My greatest sadness is my kids didn't make it to adulthood with him (9 and 12).  My sister's kids are all 18 and over and he had so much more time with him.  One of the biggest downers for me is that my dad was the one that I instantly called when my kids did something funny, mischievous or had a big accomplishment.  He LOVED to hear it all.  He was always thinking of them and picking out things they would like.  I have felt this huge hole. My mom and my husband are close, but it was my dad that was so enamored with every little detail and he always had great perspective and advice.

Talk to your dad.  Get to know him more while you have time.  I have zero regrets about anything with my dad.  Nothing went unsaid.  [/quote]

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