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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Of course I would say something to the other child!  I have told other children that they were being unkind or that I didn't like something they said or did to my kids.  First and foremost, I want my kids to know that I have their back and model the responses that I want them to copy.  [/quote]

OP here. I totally agree.   I want my son to know that I'm standing up for him.  But when I've done that in the past (said something along the lines of "that wasn't a nice thing to say"), the parent has given me a nasty look (while saying nothing at all to their child), so I wanted to double-check with DCUM if this is okay.

My question is [b]why do parents say nothing in these situations[/b]?????[/quote]

Because they don't know how. Kids don't just do what you tell them (maybe your kid is especially easy? mine is REALLY difficult and parenting him has required getting parenting coaching at different times because I had NO IDEA how to react to things he was doing - plus parenting small children is not always intuitive), and maybe her child gets worse when she does pay attention to the negative behavior and behaves better when she pays attention to the positive behavior. Maybe she's super overwhelmed and struggling for reasons that you aren't aware of because you're busy calling her a terrible mom and not actually being a good friend.

If you want to give the friendship another chance go to coffee WITHOUT the kids and just be friends, not playdate friends.[/quote]

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