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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a nice guest room with a queen bed and attached bath. One spouse thinks it’s weird for ILs, who are coming for a few nights to watch the kids while we go out of town, to sleep in our master bed while we’re gone when we have a perfectly comfortable guest space for them to use. The other spouse thinks it’s ok to let them sleep in their preferred room/bed (the master) and be more comfortable with a big TV, better attached bath, quieter/further from the kids, etc while we’re away and they’re watching the kids.  To be fair, these are ILs who generally cross boundaries and make themselves very comfortable in our house, too much so for both of us at times. We are both willing to compromise but the spouse who thinks it’s weird will be annoyed to have them in our bed. Who should give in?[/quote]

I'd love to know how someone makes it clear that "their preferred room/bed" is the master. Did you specifically offer them free reign of the house and say that they were welcome to sleep anywhere they wanted, including the master bed, and that they should tell you what they preferred? Because that's insanely rude to offer that without checking with your husband in private first.

I'm having a hard time imagining any adult raising it themselves like "oh by the way, we will actually be sleeping in your bed while you're away, using your closets and your private bath etc.... yes even though you have a beautiful guest room down the hall." Who seriously does that? It's not like you're going away for 6-12 months. (And honestly, even then I'd think it's personally kind of weird with a nice guest room down the hall.)

Or did you just come home from an evening away one time and it was like Goldilocks "and it looks like someone has been sleeping in MY bed... who was that?"[/quote]

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