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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m curious how much you think your brother owed you for the hotel room you shared with your father?  From what you wrote, it seems like you were expecting him to pay half.  But that would mean he’d pay for your father’s share 100%.  To be fair, paying for yourself means paying 50% of the room’s cost.  The other 50% was your father’s cost and is what should’ve been split by you and your brother.  So your brother only owes you only 25% of the cost of the room, not 50%.

This is important, because to your brother, it may seem like you’re trying to take advantage of him, which would explain some of his hostility towards you.

Some communities offer mediation services.  If you really can’t talk to your brother, but you have to regarding your father’s care, you may want to get a mediator’s help in clearly defining the issues and coming up with solutions that are fair to each of you.

And a therapist may help you learn how to calm your emotions and communicate more effectively.

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I don't think op should make her brother pay anything for the room. She paid for one room, he paid for one room. If op isn't strapped for cash, it's ridiculous to split it up this way. But you're right, and hopefully op can see this perspective, that if she wants to split everything for her father evenly, she's incorrect about the room.

Op, did you try to"split the cost" of the trip similarly wonky in other aspects, too?[/quote]

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