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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have they actually  asked you to visit them more or asked to visit you more? Or were they just making a comment?[/quote]

Mil is currently both making that comment and refusing to visit us until we visit them. Tears and all to dh that we aren’t close so of course he booked a guilt trip.  They are 60s, healthy, and affluent [/quote]

Again, this is a DH problem.  You need to have an on going conversation with your Dh about your priorities for time off, travel, etc.  Decide on a reasonable number of trips during the year (roughly, and include holidays).  Then stick to it.  He does not need to share this with his parents.  But he does need to understand exactly WHY his mother's guilt trips are unreasonable.  Come at him gently with this.  But he can not just give in to her crying.  Set a time in the future to visit, keep your home open to them, be firm and kind and gentle when saying no to her crying.

I am much more generous with my MIL when I feel like she is not trying to emotionally manipulate me and my DH.  So this helps EVERYONE in the long run.

I've also found that once the baby turns into the toddler, who has clear preferences on what to do, these things settle down.  The "new baby" thing makes everyone nuts.[/quote]

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