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[quote=Anonymous]A family on our road has 3 kids (2 are adopted) and the oldest (17) who is one of the adopted kids is friends with my teen. The family is quirky. Nice people but just unusual lifestyle, atypical hobbies and interests, non traditional values and philosophies on life. As soon as you meet them, you know they march to the beat of their own drum.

The 17 year old finds their life style embarrassing and he is not into much of what the parents are, and doesn't agree with much of what they believe. He feels like he has never fit into this family, that they don't get him etc. Very typical teen stuff to some degree. However he is very caught up in the random lottery results of adoption placements. He was adopted as a baby - so the idea that had any number of minor factors been even slightly different he would have had completely different parents, and a different life. He envisions the life that other adopted kids have with more 'normal parents' and is angry that he by luck of the draw ended up with this family. He looks up the life stories of other adoptees and basically is jealous / upset that his life and his potential has been constrained / limited by the family he ended up in. I have also shown him stories of how it could have been a lot worse!

I think he will likely grow out of this as he ages but anyone else know of an adoptee who really struggles with this issue? [/quote]

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