Reply to Husband's Parents very Clearly Love one Drandson, but not the Other

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Husband's Parents very Clearly Love one Drandson, but not the Other"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to limit contact for all of you! This is not healthy, even for the beloved DS14. It is not normal or healthy, not to mention sensitive or kind, to pit siblings against each other. Of course DS14 loves them and appreciates them because he is a teenager and developmentally he's in a selfish point in his life. He doesn't have a full understanding of the affect on his brother. It's your job as parents to set your kids up for success. Contact with these toxic grandparents is NOT setting either kid up for success. Obviously their treatment of DS15 is an issue, but coddling and favoring DS14 will not help him in the long run.

You won't be able to completely cut them out, but definitely limit contact. Only for special occasions and invent commitments when outings are suggested. It might take some time for the message to get through, but it's important for you to protect your kids.

Also, you need to help you DS15 with self-esteem and insecurities. These types of relationships can have a long-term affect on him. Work on making sure he knows his worth (through therapy, hobbies, outings for him, outings for the whole family). This is important. He's heading to college in a few years - make sure he understands his worth in your eyes (if not his grandparents) before he ventures out to make decisions on his own.

Good luck, OP. This is not a fun situation to be in. [/quote]

Totally agree. You’re a family op. If they’re mean to one of you they’re mean to all of you. Where is your dh in this? He needs to put a stop to it. Let both of your sons see him stand up to them. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics