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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was just finishing college and he was 5 years into a good career.  He had a 401K, healthy savings, and budget for a vacation every year.  I had a checking account with $400 in it.

Honestly, we just kept separate finances for the first few years. [b]I didn't want to lean on him, financially speaking.[/b]  Once I was on my own feet and doing as well as he was, we combined finances.

It wasn't too hard because I knew it was temporary.  [b]The awkward times were when he wanted to do something together, and I just had to be like "sorry, can't afford it ... You can go by yourself or buy me a ticket if you really want to"[/b] (he generally wanted to more often than I was comfortable with). [/quote]

This whole mentality is so foreign to me. You were MARRIED. You're leaning on each other no matter what. Keeping separate accounts is ultimately a fiction. [/quote]

No, sorry, I wasn't clear. The question was about when we "got together".  I interpreted that as serious dating, eventually living together. We didn't get married until we were much closer to an even split on anything, and that's when we combined finances.  I didn't want to lean on a serious boyfriend, even if I THOUGHT we were headed for marriage, nor did I want to commingle our accounts until we were legally married.[/quote]

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