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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s age related. I actually think guys feel the pressure to settle down in their early 30s, much the way women do.

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+1. I think it gets downplayed but I have seen guys feel the pressure re marriage/kids by their mid 30s ESP if they're the kind of guys with tight friend groups. Saw it in my DH's friend circle which is much like the one OP's DH has though it's college guys, not childhood guys. The last 2 guys to get married in that group were about 34-36 and it started to seem like they were looking at everyone else's spouses/kids and thinking -- damn I'm missing out on something that my friends have. I don't think it's bc the married friends were doing the whole -- well are you dating anyone, how about this girl from my office -- thing (AFAIK -- I don't hang with them when it's just the boys so who knows). If anything, I think the married fathers expressed how jealous they were of those guys' lives -- i.e. you just went golfing in Scotland for 5 days, wish I could do that . . . . . But on the few trips we took together and the few wedding weekends, you could kind of tell that they'd look at their married friends at the end of the night looking to see if anyone wanted to hit up a bar/after party, as the married guys retired to their rooms with their wives, and they either went back to their rooms solo or hit up a bar to find a conversation or a hookup or whatever, and eventually it just got old/lonely.

Each of them reached that point at different times, but when they did YES each of them was married within 12-18 mos later. I think that's when they started taking dating seriously and if they found a woman who was attractive/nice/whatever enough, they were committed to making it work and locking it up quick, rather than thinking -- hmm maybe there's someone better out there.[/quote]

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