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"I heard you were upset with not seeing us while DH is deployed. You have to understand that I am just one person, employed full time, managing two children and the house. I can't do everything and I'm exhausted. If you want to see the children, please call and arrange to drive here at a mutually convenient time. When DH comes home, his priority will be to his family, ie me and the kids, so we won't be able to visit you immediately."

I would take the lead here, instead of waiting for a deployed husband to handle it. [/quote]

That message above seems a little harsh (and I say that as someone who has had IL issues).

I would suggest sending an email suggesting a couple options that might work for them seeing the kids that would work for you.

So, would it be better to, say, have them spend the day with the kids while you are at work and only see them for dinner?  Come for a weekend? Some hybrid?

Suggest a scenario and a couple of dates and see where it gets you.

If they push back, want you to come to them, etc, then I'd pull the, "Look, the best option by far for the kids and me is for you to come to us. I'm overloaded with DH gone, and the house is set up for their needs right now.  I very much want you to see the kids, but please help make it easier for me instead of harder during this time."[/quote]

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