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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, OP. Did he explain what he meant?[/quote]

We have been fighting a lot, have toddlers, and feels like we have grown apart a little. I didn’t expect this. I take it as he has fallen out of love with me and no longer had feeling . [/quote]

This is common in the younger years of having kids. For my husband and I it helped to see a marriage counselor and reread the love lngauages book. Once we both felt like our grievances were acknowledged by the other THEN we were able to start making progress.

Raising a family, careers and a building a life together is stressful for any couple. I’m sorry he hurt your feelings. If he still seems committed to the marriage don’t harbor resentment but try to figure out how to fix the fighting. [/quote]
+1  those years are hard.  Our kids are 9 and 12 now, and we are now more in love than before. Something about going through those struggles together.. you come out stronger together.

I questioned my feelings for DH during those years; I'm sure DH did the same. I think the difference for us is that neither of us voiced this. It would've been the death knell for us.I think it's normal in a marriage to have these ups/downs to the point where sometimes you think you don't love that person anymore, but if you truly believe that there is no more love there deep down, then how do you recover from this? I'm not sure one can.[/quote]

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