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[quote=Anonymous]I read these threads with popcorn. But I'm getting tired of the popcorn as the threads have become so repetitive and tiresome. What advice can be given that hasn't already been given a million times in just the last few weeks?

And, of course, as always we only ever get one side of the argument. We will never hear the MIL's perspective. But the one thing I've learned from both this forum and real life is that most of the complaints stem from the OP usually being completely and utterly inflexible towards different types of personalities.

Case 1: "I haven't seen you forever!" to a young grandchild sounds like typical grandma speak, even if she'd just seen the said grandchild a week ago.

Case 2: "why I don't bring her by and telling me that I needed to bring her over when I go to work" sounds like grandma offering free babysitting services.

Case 3: "MIL was also pissed that we weren't going to their Mother's Day dinner. They invited us less than 24 hours notice and SIL let is slip that they've had these plans for weeks. MIL always asks us last minute and then gets all huffy when we can't make it." Sounds like you have a distracted woman who frequently forgets to do things and plans lots of last minute things and last minute decisions (and many of them never get carried out). That's a personality type. Lots of cheerful, positive and happy people are like this. Maybe she gets huffy when you clearly get annoyed and feels offended and defensive.

Case 4: "We thought that we didn't have any formal plans so we made plans on our own." Ah. It's Mother's Day. No one bothered to call MIL in advance and suggest a dinner either? She's a mother, too!

So I can easily see how this is really just down to different personalities and MIL's personality, which can be quite innocent and well-meaning in its own way, grating on the OP who's probably an organized control freak. Just a different perspective.

Ok, time to make more popcorn. [/quote]

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