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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]2nd marriage for me, my parents and siblings have not wanted anything to do with him.  We are adults in our mid 40's.
They don't acknowledge him when they are standing right next to him and I.   He doesn't care for my family because of the way they treat him.

My family thinks that he broke up my marriage.  He didn't, my marriage was broken for a long time.  He is the first person I dated which was 3 months before the divorce was final.

I've never been super close to my family. So I wasn't crying on their door step about my failing marriage.  It's been 5 years since my divorce was final.

Do I invite them to our small ceremony/reception??[/quote]

OP, I'm usually on the side of families in cases like this for only one reason: assuming you have a functional family, they love you unconditionally in a way that your future husband doesn't, and they are able to see signs of poor treatment or insufficient love that you cannot, being too close to the situation.  I've had a similar situation with my daughter who brought home her boyfriend she was clearly gaga over.  And he clearly wasn't.  When she asked me what I thought, I told her candidly, "he is great and I can see why you like him, but I don't think he likes you the way you like him."  She got upset at the time but I unfortunately turned out to be right.

Do they have any reason to believe that your fiance doesn't love you like he should? Are there any objective reasons why he might be a bad idea for you? [/quote]

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