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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks everyone. DH works in IT and he wants to study programming. It would be a night, and I am supportive as long as it does not involve debt. I think you are right that I need to look at cost vs benefit but DH has not given me any specifics on this when asked.

Also, frankly I am drained emotionally from this, and I feel it is largely escapism on his part. He also always brings this up at the most inopportune times. Now it is Mother's Day. The last time we had this discussion he persisted with it over the holidays. [/quote]

I think it's a fairly common thing for a person working in IT to try to become a programmer. I would actually encourage him to explore the options offered by local community colleges for stuff like this. If it is a lack of skills that prevents him from advancing in his career, that is something that can often be developed without paying for a full time 4-year degree in the subject.

For example, at Montgomery College, there are course sequences that can give him the skills he needs without the lengthy programs. They are sometimes available in week-long boot camp style programs. http://cms.montgomerycollege.edu/iti/index.html

It might be escapism on his part. My best friend's husband is in IT and he definitely has this issue sometimes. But if he is going to spend thousands of the family's dollars on this program, he needs to have a concrete plan. I think that presenting him with an option like this would indicate that you're not totally opposed to the idea but want to figure out a way that everyone's needs get met.
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