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[quote=Anonymous]My spouse works at a Big 4 firm.  Nearly all the male partner's wives are SAHW/SAHMs.  When the wives want to stay in a certain metropolitan area after a rotation ends, you'd be surprised at how hard the partners will often work to keep their SAHW/SAHMs happy.  Since they don't work and their husband is gone working for much of the day, I think it takes a long time for a SAHW/SAHM to build up support network.  Once they have it, they don't want to leave it and rebuild.

I know DCUM would like to think that SAHM/SAHW are at the total mercy of their husbands but - at least among first marriages in this economic class of people that I've observed - I just don't see that.  The women are not disempowered shrinking violets.  They often have robust social calendars and they're involved in their communities.  Since these partner husbands are almost universally married to their college sweetheart, usually all the assets were accumulated during the marriage and there is almost never a prenup.  The payouts in these divorces can be to the tune of many millions.

So, yeah, in practice, I think it's often that SAHW/SAHMs get a lot of say.  That said, I don't think they should be allowed to be a "domestic dictator".  Ideally, a couple should come to an agreement together that weighs all factors.[/quote]

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