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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD has a big event after chool coming up next week, and I really don’t want to have to invite my ILs. My DH will be out of town for work, I have a tumultuous relationship with my ILs, and I just don’t want to have to deal with them. My mom may come with me to the event, but my dad has an important doctor appointment he can’t miss. My MIL is mostly fine but my FIL is horrible and doesn’t like my parents, or really anyone for that matter. [b]And to make matters worse, DD has baseball practice I will be rushing her to immediately following this event; there will be no time to chit chat afterwards.[/b] DH hasn’t yet mentioned this to his parents. I know my DD will wonder where her grandparents are if I don’t invite them, and inevitably will ask them where they were. Is here a way I can get out of inviting them without hurting my husband? He knows they are hard to be around but feels obligated. [/quote]

Why is this bad?  This seems perfect to me - you don't like your ILs, and yet you can keep the peace and keep your husband happy by inviting them to an event where you aren't obligated to talk to them, and you can't stick around and talk afterwards.  Win win.  [/quote]
Because my FIL will complain that they drove all that way to watch a 30 minute play and I just abandoned them afterwards. [/quote]

But you won't have to listen to the complaints so who cares? Invite them and let them know that you will have to leave quickly in advance so it isn't a surprise. Your DD wants them there enough that she will ask where they were. This has nothing to do with your DH it has to do with your DD. She wants them there. Invite them and use your excuse to not have to talk to them.[/quote]

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