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[quote=Anonymous]I'm single, in part because I've never been good at "meh."  For some reason, when I'm done with a guy, I am DONE.  If I felt "meh" about someone, I'd become repulsed at the idea of spending time with him.  I wouldn't be able to stand being in the same house with him.

So I can't really empathize with your situation, because you're clearly different than me - you have a higher "meh" tolerance - but I can sympathize.

I think it's somewhat admirable to stay in a lifeless marriage to lessen the impact on the kids.  If you're truly getting along without rancor, then maybe this will work.  That said, do you want to stay with him after the kids are gone?  And if you plan to leave, do you want your kids to be completely thrown because they never realized there were issues?  Or do you want them to end up in the same type of marriages as you, because they've never seen anything different?  Kids sometimes model their relationships on what they see at home.  (which is probably why I'm not married; I've never found a guy who loved me as much as my dad loved my mom, who I also loved.)  I'm not saying this is necessarily a bad idea, to stay, just saying that you really need to consider all the possible outcomes.

Plus it makes me sad that you are missing out on love and passion, when maybe you both could have that with someone else.  Yeah, running 2 households is not ideal financially and it can be a pain in the butt.  I know I shoulder a lot more of the child-care because my ex and I are not in the same house.  but my two-year-old is the happiest kid you will ever see.  She's never known her parents living in the same house; two houses is just her normal.  [/quote]

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