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My mother is hypercritical and my husband has a method: he's a doctor, and imagines that he's interacting with a mentally ill patient - which isn't far from the truth anyway! So he doesn't engage, doesn't explain/defend himself, changes the subject, stays calm and courteous, and walks away when he starts getting annoyed.

I try to implement this too, but she really gets to me after a while.

So the maximum we are able to be with my parents is 2 weeks, and we have found that location also counts. On their turf, they get antsy much quicker than in our house, or in a third location.

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[b]Wow 2 weeks - that's a long time for family. [/b] The rule in my house is long weekend max (3 nights) for either IL to stay.  And when we go, we do add an extra night bc we have to go to both sets as divorced (4 nights away - 2 nights/parent).  Longer lengths = more problems will arise.  So I guess that is my advice - limit the length of time which makes it easier to be nice and cheery as other commentators have suggested.

I do allow family vacations at a neutral location for long with our own hotel rooms for certain ILs as they allow for more alone time which makes things less stressful - aka we can eat lunch alone or we can do an activity and they don't care.  The only expectation is they get to have dinner with the DCs.  Not all ILs get this though as some are freaking needy and our vacation time would be ruined by some fight for space.[/quote][/quote]

Yup. They live in Europe, and we don't see them every year, so that's how it works.[/quote]

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