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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you gotten to, and surpassed, the age in which one or both of your parents died?  How hard is reaching the age in which a parent died psychologically?

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My mother (84)  lived almost 50 years longer than her mother (36) and 35 years more than her father (49).  She did not seem to be affected when she made it beyond their ages.

My father (84), did not live as long as his parents (87 and 99). My Dad was disappointed, he was aiming for their average.

Once you hit 80, it is a crapshoot.  [/quote]

My father (76) also did not live as long as his parents (87 and 82).  My dad was vibrant and healthy and looked and acted like a 50-year old, not a 76-year old.  But--cancer is a bitch.

You just never know.  Everyone in my family always assumed my dad would live well into his 80s--given his excellent health is whole life and family history.

The thing we have all taken out of it is to live life like he did---the man absolutely had and infectious joy for life, lived it the way he wanted to and loved his family and friends fiercely and always let us know--through actions and words.

My mom just keeps saying 'life is too short'.  She is a very 'young' 74 and always assumed she and my dad would live well past 80.  Their love was so strong--married 52 years.

The cancer thing scares the crap out of me.  I know so many people taken down with it in their prime and as young if not younger than me.

That's why I really try to focus on living life to the fullest.  I have to 're-center' myself every once in awhile not to get hung up on the little crap that just doesn't matter in the grand scheme of life. [/quote]

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