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[quote=Anonymous]Thank you, everyone, for the suggestions!

What PP @ 12:53 is suggesting is what we've been working on this year. We have been working with access to cellular data on her phone, as well as wireless access at home. That allows her to voice call or text (no images), which works well. This quarter, when she knew she was getting an F but did not move to do anything about it, the phone completely disappeared until she came home with a B on a quizz and turned in catchup work.

So yes, it;s a careful orchestration of incentives and consequences, hoping but failing at avoiding the helicopter mom syndrome. I usually wait for her with printed homework from her BB account, so that we avoid the conversation of "its in my locker". She absolutely hates it, hates me for doing it and hates her teacher for creating the work.

In her moments of reason, she agrees it's necessary, but always, in the spur of the moment, we spend 2-3h crying and complaining about the work for every 10 minutes of actual work. It's exhausting, for her and for me -- and it's a horrible model for her younger brother.

So yes, we're working on the home front pretty hard... wondering what to do on the school side. The tools that I believe will be offered are things like a team-taught classroom or even a small environment one, breaks, more Strategies for success and academic recovery classes (2nd math class). My fear is that any one of those will backfire, because it removes access to fun extras (choir, art, drama), removes her from the circle of friends she has already made, and it requires even more effort than what she has to give.

That's why I'm looking for creative ideas of strategies at school that have worked. I completely agree with PP that homework is important. Besides the poor grades (HW not turned in and failed tests), it also means the tests need to be corrected, and it often stretches her over 3 or even 4 units of study at once! (one or two corrections, one being tested, one being taught and sometimes a pre-test on a future unit). It's impossible for her to split her attention in all these directions and still be successful. An that is only ONE SUBJECT out of 4 core and 1-2 electives...

That's why I'm looking at what can the scool do...[/quote]

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