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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry to hear about the abuse.  Guy here, and I think most women worry way too much about stretch marks.  It's NBD, honestly.

Your past is your own business, you shouldn't feel a need to advertise your lack of relationships to potential BFs.  The lack of sexual experience is fine, as long as you are enthusiastic.

I'd suggest you get serious about fitness, potentially look to learn about makeup / hair / a wardrobe to maximize your looks, and get therapy / counseling.  The goal of all of those would be to build self-confidence.  It will be hard to find a LTR if you hate yourself.  [/quote]

Op here. Yes, I have been in therapy for a year. I have an odler male friend ( more like a mentor) who also had a similar childhood ( both of our moms have bipolar disorder) and it’s been great taking with him. He urged me to seek therapy, as he has benefited him. I come from a Republican conservative home wher I’m am deemed a “ snowflake” for wanting to go to therapy. My family makes fun of me for being an introvert, but I’ve never told them about the abuse as a child, though many of them suffered the same abuse at different stages in their life.

I’m really into fitness and have grown more confident and appreactive of my body ( it’s really just the stretchmarks that make me insecure). I’m otherwise successful in my career, great with kids ( former nanny), and I love sex. I think the biggest thing holding me back is the worry a guy won’t accept me for my past. I feel embarrassed and ashamed by the lack of a life.[/quote]

Op here. I have been trying to work on trust and abandonment issues. I tend to push people away when they get to close out of fear of being hurt. [/quote]

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