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[quote=Anonymous]My son doesn't have Asperger's (anxiety and ADHD) but he has some of the qualities you mention. He is 13 and has about 4 very close friendships (people who would call him a best friend), some of which have lasted since preschool. 
The reasons these friendships worked, in my view, is that these kids were all socially confident and very friendly, so they sort of filled in the conversation gaps that he left. What I mean to say is they might converse about superheroes when they wanted to but then basically force him to change the subject when they didn't... and they were friendly/happy/fun enough to ignore that he might take a little bit to go along with him and adapt. They were also emotionally easy going kids who could go with the flow when my son was younger and didn't always.

I don't mean that they gave in to him, but rather that they didn't react much to his over-reactions and always re-accepted him easily if he took a break or got overly intense about something.

I never wanted other kids to work hard or come up with topics--it was much better that my son, who is super creative and often a leader in games, learn to adapt and interpret when other kids were excited about his ideas or not interested in what he had to say. Besides being generally an idea guy and fully of energy, my son is also extremely loyal so he has always brought a lot to the table, as well.

What I am trying to say is that I think you should encourage patience and flexibility in your daughter but not make her do all the work. Otherwise, it won't be a truly reciprocal friendship, which I assume is everybody's goal.[/quote]

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