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[quote=Anonymous]I know, I know...this is way far out, but the point was my husband and I wanted to communicate our desire to host Thanksgiving early, in order to give MIL and others time to process and consider and make plans.

DH and I have been married for seven years. We alternate spending holidays with our families, and my parents have been great about "letting" us host a few of those holidays. MIL has never once "let" us host Thanksgiving or Christmas. We've hosted Easter once, and I think we did a great job. But I really want to host my ILs for Thanksgiving, for ONCE, and DH does, too. We're both good cooks, and like having people over, and we want to use all of our crystal and china, etc.

So we thought we did everything right to make this happen this year. We sat down in January and thought about how we want to spend each milestone and holiday this year. We both agreed we want to host Thanksgiving, and it's his family's "turn" with us for that holiday. So he called his mom a few days after Easter to extend a very early invitation so that she could get used to the idea, etc.

Well, she was noncommittal on the phone, but now sent us a very long email about why she needs to host. The main reason is that she invites friends of theirs every year (a 60-something couple), and doesn't want to leave them in the lurch. We said they'd be more than welcome here; it's only about a 2.5-hour drive, and they are healthy and active (from as far as we can tell), so it's not an unreasonable day trip. We even said we'd serve dinner early so they could get on the road while it is still light out. But no, that just wouldn't be convenient, that's not tradition, blah blah blah.

I'm so frustrated. I know there's plenty of time for the dust to settle, but right now she's saying she "doesn't think they can make it." Is there anything we can do, beyond giving them space and time and leaving the invite open?[/quote]

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