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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last week my girlfriend asked me to help her pay off debt. We were on vacation and she said her debt is stressing her out. She's got $8,000 in credit card debt. She's in school and works part time as a TA. She asked if I could pay $200 towards her debt until next summer. On one hand I am happy she has been honest with me about her finances, but I wasn't comfortable doing this. I told her I would think about it. I really thought she was joking. Things have not been the same since we had this conversation. She's been very distant. We have been together for 3 years. We are supposed to go away to NY next weekend but she called off the trip. [/quote]

Well, I don't see where she broke up with you, just that she called off a weekend trip. That could be a breakup or it could just be that she's very stressed out about this issue, and a) doesn't want to go away with you when you said you didn't want to help her or [b]b) she doesn't want to spend money on a trip anymore.[/b] If you have been together for 3 years, you should be able to talk to her about this and get a better understanding of the situation. I think that if I was in your girlfriend's position, I would have felt very vulnerable asking a boyfriend for help that way and would have been pretty upset and hurt that you thought I was joking.

Before this conversation, what was your longterm expectation of this relationship? Dating for 3 years sounds like it was serious. Was it marriage material? Getting on the same page financially is an important step in a longterm relationship. Maybe she saw this as a conversation about longterm financial health and interpreted your response as that you do not care about that for her. Then again, maybe she's a gold-digging floozy who only wanted you for your $200/mo.[/quote]
That's what I thought.  If she is anxious about debt, then it makes sense that she would cancel a trip.

It's possible that she read your unwillingness to help her financially as evidence that you aren't that serious about the relationship in the long term.  Not saying that's right, but it might explain why she seems distant.  It's also possible that she's distant because she's stressed.  [/quote]

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