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[quote=Anonymous]My wife works more than I think is comfortable for our marriage.  We have two elementary school aged kids and have been married for 10+ years.

When I say that she works too much, here is what I mean.  
1) The kids and I have dinner without her for 90% of the weekdays
2) We don't have/make time to talk about what's going on in our lives and the kids lives because she's spent after work
3) We are intimate only once a week because she's so tired
4) Here is the vent portion: I do 90% of the cooking, dishes, garbage, grocery shopping, etc during the week.  We typically eat out on the weekends because I don't want to cook or do dishes and it's easier so there is little burden on her on the weekends as well

The crazy part for me, is that I bring in 80% of our income and my job is suffering because I have to take care of all the household activities.  To be fair, she stayed home for 7 years after we had our first child and supported me through my career which directly allowed me to put all my energy into my work.  I know she is trying to make up for "lost" time and I don't mind that she works but getting home at 8pm or later everyday does not a happy home make.  That said, she really loves what she does and it shows.  She pours her heart and soul into her work and that leaves very little for us at home.  What is leftover goes to the kids.  I get the scraps which is to say, I don't get no lovin.

I'm trying to figure out what I want because I'm dissatisfied at the status quo.  Here is what I think I want:
 - More intimacy - at least 2x a week 
 - I want to be prioritized and feel appreciated for my contributions

Writing this out has helped me organize my thoughts and this may sound crude but I just want to get laid more frequently and I think that will help dissolve my growing disappointment about the inequity of the household responsibilities.

For the record, I do love her and am committed to the relationship but there is a growing discontent within me.  I'm planning on having a conversation with her this weekend but wanted to organize my thoughts beforehand.

So, what say you DCUM?  Any advice would be appreciated on how to bring this up in a conversation or any ideas on how to deal with my growing discontent with my wife/marriage.  If in your reply, you could identify as male or female before providing your advice, I would appreciate it.  
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