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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Life insurance, otherwise - - no, no come-to-Jesus-talk. Love the man you got. You are likely to make to worsen your relationship - which is far worse - by being bossy[/quote]
Not OP but an overweight, sickly, husband seems pretty bad to me. He is worsening their relationship right now.[/quote]

NP here.  The thing is, she can't make him live a healthy lifestyle. Sounds like she's doing all she can practically to encourage it, but it's up to him.  She can cook healthy meals (not that it's her job), and he can sabotage with snacks, desserts, not working out.  Escalating verbal encouragement to a "come to Jesus" talk will do nothing except harm the relationship--because he's either going to do it for the value of it, or he's not.  If she nags, cajoles, shames, judges, "encourages" -- it will just erode the trust and whatever goodwill there is.  It will make him hide the ice cream, not omit it.  Or eat it in front of her and tune her out, detach.

I agree--love him the best you can.  And if he is unable/unwilling to be fit, you have to live your life.  Set your limits and what you are willing and unwilling to do, and take care of yourself.  [/quote]

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