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[quote=Anonymous]We are both mid 40s.  DH's weight has been slowly and steadily trending upward for years.  He's slightly overweight now, and I see it getting worse every year.  It's starting to cause him problems: joint problems, blood pressure is creeping up, he gets out of breath just kicking a soccer ball around with the kids for 15-20 minutes.  He has a strong family history of high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and heart problems.

I fear this getting a lot worse as we close in on 50.  I've tried starting exercise programs for us to do together, to head it off.  We've started a bunch of different things but he keeps finding excuses to stop after a few weeks: too far away, not convenient for his schedule, and most recently he pulled a muscle and refuses to do that activity again for fear of injury (I understand taking a break to heal, but he says he won't do it again ever).  I cook healthy meals at home but he brings home ice cream and cookies for late-night snacking.

I'm frustrated that he won't take his health seriously and work to get in shape now before it gets worse.  I'm worried that he's already giving up and won't make any effort to keep things from spiraling out of control.  I'm annoyed that he's already backing out of family activities because he "doesn't feel up for it", leaving me to do things like take the kids camping by myself.  I'm irritated that I'm going to have to spend my retirement years taking care of someone who has refused to take care of himself.

Am I overthinking this?  Should I just let him be, and keep my opinions to myself?  Or is it time for a come-to-Jesus talk with him? [/quote]

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