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[quote=Anonymous]Ok DCUM, you really helped me a couple weeks ago, and I need you again!

I posted a couple weeks ago about my ILs who were giving me a hard time, badmouthing me to family and flat out denying things I had done for them, specifically bringing or kids to visit them. We went months without talking until they suddenly out of the blue decided they wanted to make up again. You all have me great advice here: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/715624.page

Well, my MIL actually called me and wanted to know why I was so upset. I told her as monotone yet authoritarian and to the point as I could that my feelings were hurt, I was feeling unappreciated, my previous efforts went unnoticed, and I was even badmouthed. (All your words, thanks so much!) I told her it would take time to build the trust back up. She flat out denied it all again, and even told ME that I was hurtful. I told her I was done arguing about it, but they were welcome to come visit anytime. She was shocked when she hung up. But she surprised me and called DH a couple days later to set up a visit; they will be coming when he’s home this weekend.

How do I act? Do I gray rock with a side of “kill them with kindness”? What do I say when they walk through the door. I’m so nervous but honestly still mad, but I don’t want them to know. Please give me some more great advice! [/quote]

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