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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So we run the numbers and we both feel we need a bump in HHI to adequately pay for college and retirement.  Not a huge bump, but definitely a bump.

I have a great commute with a flexible work arrangement and a terrific boss and a job that I really enjoy.  Not only do I enjoy my work, I am able to attend all of the kid events, which I enjoy doing (husband doesn't care about that sort of thing).

DH has a terrible commute.  His arrangement could be more flexible, but he hates working from home so rarely does it.  He's not really interested in attending the kids' activities.  He doesn't like his actual work.  He's also got better credentials than I do.

Seems obvious to me that he should be the one to look hard for another job, but he won't.  He complains about work and commute but does nothing about it!  It drives me crazy!  The things we are angling to pay for are future benefit things (college/retirement) so they seem easy to put off and put off and put off.  Plus looking for a job is tedious and time consuming if you really do it right. I don't think he's applied at all anywhere in a year, yet he believes as firmly as I do that we can pay for current lifestyle but can't get ourselves ahead at this rate.

The only solution that I see is for me to start looking heavily but I hate the idea of giving up my job because he's too lazy to find something else.  :-([/quote]

Are you sure he's the one who is lazy?[/quote]

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