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[quote=Anonymous]How do I deal with a mom who believes overnight visits with her grandchildren is a [i]right[/i]? Our children have a local grandma who we see often; about twice a month if not more. But inevitably, it’s never good enough and she isn’t satiated unless she has overnight visits. The problem is that our child isn’t the biggest fan. To counter this, we offer up suggestions for them to do things one-on-one like bowling, a trip to the ice cream shop, the park; but she still isn’t satisfied and just isn’t interested in doing things like this. She confronted me and asked why we limit overnight visits so much, and I finally told her the other day that it’s not that that we limit them, but that they just don’t like staying that often. It got ugly and I was then guilt tripped (and maybe even gaslighted, I know everyone hates thy term, sorry) about how they only had one overnight visit in 2017, which I know isn’t true because my husband recalls at least three times he picked them up over the summer and helped my dad with various things when there.

How, if there is even a way, do I get it through my mom’s head that she’s welcome to visit the kids anytime, but that they have zero right to overnights and our children are under no obligation to spend the night at their house?[/quote]

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