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[quote=Anonymous]I try very hard to treat our adult children as peers. As long as they are not financially dependent on us in any way, I try to act towards them as I would act towards a friend. They are given the respect I give other adults. The respect I give friends. That means not giving advice unless it's asked for. It is difficult. However, Op -- you have a role here. You have the role to expect and state that their opinions have not been asked for .. and that you'd like them to curtail giving their opinions unless asked. Why don't you do this? Because you aren't willing to risk Mommy & Daddy getting mad at you. But you would risk this with a friendship. In order to keep the balance of power in any other relationship each party has to be willing to risk some difficult feelings .. risk the other person being a little mad once in awhile. Relationships ebb and flow. Progress you make now, though uncomfortable, you will benefit from later. Only other thing I'll add is --- not saying you do this, just be aware --- no one wants to hear others complain and discuss their problems AND THEN not listen to any advice. That's not fair. So... don't over-share if you don't want there to be conversation.[/quote]

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