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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think your obvious contempt is helping matters, op.

[b]First, have you talked to him about this in a non-insulting way?  Have you told him you feel too much pressure?  What does he say?[/b]

Yes, and he admits what I say is true. When he is in a good mood, he tells me he would like me to teach him how to be more effective. The problem is that there are not enough hours in a day to teach an adult things like “here is how to check the lines on the syringe to make sure you have an exact dose.” And how do I teach an adult not to freeze and look at me like a deer in headlights when bad news hits?  I agreed that I would make a weekly to-do list, but now he forgets to check it.

I seriously think he has an undiagnosed learning disability because his parents are the types who would not have bothered to get him checked or treated. But he won’t get evaluated and thinks the suggestion is insulting.

[b]Have you tried counseling?[/b]

Finding the time is hard. We tried it and missed more sessions than we attended.  I don’t need someone to help me get to the bottom of my anger over the course of six months. I literally need someone to come in and teach this person NOW how to be an adult.

[b]You suggest that your husband is a danger to your daughter.  Is this really true?  If it is, and he refuses to get better, then you need to start talking to a lawyer.  That's basically it.[/b]

Yes, it is true. Not on purpose, but his forgetfulness, carelessness, and stupidity has led to mistakes that put her at risk. I am actually almost afraid to divorce him because we might have to share custody and the man can’t handle a child alone right now.

But the outright contempt and finding your husband "stupid" will destroy whatever kind of marriage you have.[/quote][/quote]

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