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[quote=Anonymous]You admitted your parenting techniques are not that strong (spanking, ineffective toy taking away, etc.).  Please consider enrolling in a PEP class.  http://pepparent.org/classes-programs/class-schedule/

But, with an ADHD child, inappropriate behavior is not all about parenting skill.  I have an ADHD kid, and I found that along with ADHD came significant weaknesses in both receptive/expressive language and social pragmatic language.  It is very common for ADHD kids to have other issues in addition to ADHD.  For example, a big part of why my kid had difficult getting along with teachers and peers is that he didn't always understand what they were saying and/or he couldn't really make himself understood.  It was a subtle problem because he talked, but if you listened carefully to what he said, he was often off topic or not responding on point to questions, which frustrated his listeners.  Because of his language weaknesses, he had great difficulty negotiating conflict in even the simplest verbal way, so he used other techniques like interrupting, being imperious, getting emotionally upset or angry, refusing to cooperate, and, sometimes, getting physical.

Speech therapy for both oral and pragmatic language was helpful.  If you haven't already done it, I encourage you to get a speech and language assessment from a qualified SLP.  IME, speech/language assessment from the neuropsych isn't as good.  Even though they may use the same tests, their analysis of the error patterns is not as good as that of an SLP.

A full neuropsych evaluation is also helpful to see if there are any other issues.  My DS has slow processing in addition to a diagnosed language disorder.  This slow processing means that he has a difficult time keeping up conversationally, which is a root cause of what appears to be "impulsivity".  He impulsively interrupts because he is often late processing in a conversation, so while everyone else has moved on a topic or two, he has only just figured out how to respond to what was said 3 points ago.  He also knows if he doesn't blurt it out, he will forget it.  He can't remember what he wants to say, and also process the ongoing conversation, and also figure out when or how to bring the conversation back to what he wanted to say 5 minutes ago. [/quote]

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