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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your child is 3 years, not 3 months. Move her to a toddler bed, and she doesn't need to be picked up. In general, by now your three-year-old knows that her daddy can't lift her up. I am not trying to be obnoxious, I just truly don't see why your DH can't do things like feed her. Is he in so much pain that he can't lift a spoon? Do you assume your daughter needs to be lifted into a chair? Because again, at age 3 a kid can sit independently, eat independently, etc. So either the problem with your husband's disability is worse than you make it seem, or you are attributing his inability to care for DD to his disability, whereas something else is going on.

It does seem that if the problem is your DH's health, and it's going to improve post-surgery, you should hold off on having more kids. Imagine what would happen if this thing happened to you, rather than DH. Would it be your fault?

If, however, you just got into this dynamic of him being helpless, then you need to work on that.

(I don't have any experience dealing with this specific issue, but I do have two kids who were three not so long ago.)[/quote]

So he actually can't lift anything more than 5 lbs right now and can't bend over or twist at all. So, yes, that is the scenario. Maybe trying for more independence would be good. She knows he can't lift her or play with her but that doesn't really help if she wakes up from a nap/night crying and I'm not there and she needs some attention.[/quote]

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