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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I probably would have responded to his yelling with this: 
“Let me know when you’re done so we can have a rational conversation.”

And then when he calmed down, either then or at some later point, I would say:
“So you’re upset that we have to hire someone else to fix the doors. I did tell you about it several times this winter. Perhaps you don’t remember. At this point, it doesn’t matter. What does after is that they need to be fixed. If you’d like to hire the contractor to fix them, fine. Or if you’d like me to do it, I can. What’s not an option is yelling at me. I’m tired of dealing with this renovation and have felt alone in handling all the details. Having you yell at me on top of that is not an option.”[/quote]

You will not believe how often I had similar conversations with him! Doors is not the first problem like this. Every time he says "yes yes" and checks out. He understands only when I get emotional, yell etc. I don't like this dynamic and can't understand why it has to be like that?
This morning after huge scandal last night I woke up to finished doors, clean dishes, made bed. He doesn't do any of it on good terms. 
Is it something childhood related?[/quote]

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