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You are sleep-deprived and stressed already without the added burden of a high-intensity hostage-type negotiation with your husband.

What would you rather do:
1. Talk to him about his attitude, which will lead to a fight.
2. Announce a separation, which will also lead to a fight.
3. Do nothing and survive until you are a little stronger.

My husband has plenty of attitude problems, but we're living such a stressed-out life already (one that goes way beyond normal life worries) that it's really difficult to address them. I've tried! We've tried therapy too, which didn't work at all.

So my only option is retrenchment, for now. You'll have to figure out what yours is.

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PP again. I just read your update.

I draw the line at abusing my kids. I will get in there and defend them, and have threatened to call the police if he lays a hand on them (or me). He did in the past, and has stopped, because of my threats, probably. The thing is, I'm not scared of him, so whenever he crosses a line, I re-affirm boundaries. My kids are middle school and elementary aged, and know exactly what a jerk he can be. It's important for your children to know you are on their side, and to understand what constitutes standard punishment, and how different it is from abuse. I talk a lot to them about that, we have an open, trust-based relationship, because my greatest fear is that they will either become or marry someone like my husband. I point out examples of patient, understanding parenting as often as I can, and try to model this, obviously. What you don't want is a situation such as described by some posters on DCUM, where they blame their mother for not standing up to their father's abusive behavior. 
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