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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I changed my eating habits in Jan (yay for cliched New Year's Resolution time) and have lost about 20 of the 40 pounds I need to lose.  At this point the change is starting to be pretty noticeable (I'm back to my pre-baby #2 weight and I get to "shop my closet" with clothes I haven't worn for a while).  My problem is that DH doesn't seem to notice it at all - either expressly or in terms of his interest in me (any interest - from low-key touching to sex and in between).  20 pounds ago I was able to write this off to my weight gain, but now it's starting to bug me, and make me think (realize?) that it's a bigger problem.  Part of me thinks that he thinks it's better to not say anything (in his defense he never said anything when I gained the weight - which was primarily the result of PPD brought on be weaning baby #2).  But (a larger) part of me feels devastated that he doesn't seem to have much interest.  I've brought it up with him once and he sort of waved it away saying that we had been together for so long that he still loved me, he just didn't have the same passion he had 15 years ago.  I know this is a fair response (and probably normal) but it felt devastating to me.  Is this just the status quo?  Has anyone had any success in rekindling interest/sex/attention?[/quote]

Maybe he has no sex drive. I have two female friends divorced because of their DHs inability to raise to the occasion and both are very fit and objectively attractive. Both have remarried men who regularly want to have sex.[/quote]

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