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[quote=Anonymous]I read that other thread and it's a bunch of fighting about whether men should "open" their relationships after wives cut them off and some self righteous female PPs throwing their 2 cents in about how they're superior because they don't have this problem. Thanks for that, your contribution was really helpful  :roll:

So it seems like many of us agree that this eventually becomes a problem for a lot of people.*

What is the solution? I am a late 30s mom of three kids, married for 15 years, and I only desire sex about once a month (probably when I'm ovulating - though I have an IUD and don't get periods anymore so I can't track that). I have sex with my husband 1-2x a week however because I know that once a month isn't going to cut it. But I would like to genuinely desire sex more often than that.

At the end of a busy day, usually I just want to chill on my own and read my book for 20 minutes before going to sleep. I don't have the energy to fulfill one more person's needs. That's often what psyching myself up for sex feels like - checking off something on my to do list. When we get into it, I do have an orgasm and I think "why would I want to live without this?" but then it goes right back to the same problem.

My husband is a good guy, he's attractive and fit, has a good job, helps with the kids 50/50 so that's not the problem. I don't know what is? Maybe the novelty? The other stress in my life? The SSR I take? I don't think it's the medication because I do genuinely desire sex more often on vacation but that is hard to replicate in my daily life.

What are the solutions that work for you guys?

*IF this doesn't apply to you, FEEL FREE to stay out of this thread. [/quote]

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