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[quote=Anonymous]It’s getting out of control and has come to a boiling point. I’m not sure where I should stand, or how to deal with her.

I should preface by saying that my husband is on to her behavior, but sort of in denial, or conflicted. It’s his mom and he wants her to be normal. But, he has my back and defends me 100%.

Last night, DH gets a call from his brother saying he just talked to their mom and she’s in a really bad place. So DH calls her and she basically tells him she’s so depressed and upset with ME. (I am a SAHM right now so I do the bulk of facilitating visits and taking our kids over to see the ILs.) What follows is about 20 minutes of her blaming me for her depression, spewing jealousy about my parents (even though she gets equal, if not the lions share of visits), memory lapses (denying visits we’ve made to her, forgetting/denying two vacations/getaways we took with her), bringing up a disagreement we had about 5 years ago (saying it still makes her cry), and other things I just can’t remember right now.

I thought long and hard about it last night. I’m going to play “grey rock”. DH will be in charge of all planning; I refuse to be blamed again. But with Easter coming up, how do I handle this? I don’t even feel like going, but I don’t want to seem dramatic. Do I go and keep my distance, pretend it never happened? Do I stay home and send DH and DC? Should he stay home? How should I handle DH, who knows she has issues, but who still loves his mom (underatandably!)

Any and all tips for dealing with a narcissist? [/quote]

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