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[quote=Anonymous]I strongly dislike majority of my girlfriends ( we have been dating for a year)immediate family. They are drama filled, immature, and mentally/emotionally/verbally abusive. My girlfriend grew up with a bipolar ( unmedicated) mother who is very verbally, and at times, was physically anusive during her young years. Her dad was in and out of her life, and had a drug problem and temper. Her stepdad was super nice but very close minded ( hardcore conservative). Her oldest sibiling is a narcasicst, and youngest is just a brat. All sibilings are in their 20’s and 30’s. We see her family for major holidays and birthdays ( maybe 20 times a year). When we see them, it’s toxic. Her mom is always mad and willing if things don’t go her way, and they constantly pick on my girlfriend. I think her mom is jealous of her as she is educated, smart, level headed, etc. She seems to be the butt of every joke. Her mom had never once complimented her, often calling her and her siblings ( except youngest who is stepdads child) that they are stupid and will never amount to anything. For these reasons, my girlfriend had suffered with low self-esteem and self-worth. She got treatment and is much better. She is the first woman I have met that I want to spend my life with. There are so many things I love about her. The most amazing trait of hers is even when people are mean to her, she never is mean to them, because she never wants anyone to feel less than or hurt their feelings. She does stick up for herself, but often  brushes it off.

I was raised in a different household. I was raised by loving parents who did everything they could to foster my self-esteem and make me a good himnan being. It hurts me that they treat her badly at times, and I would not want my child to ever witness this. I tond her that it’s either me or her family. I love her, but I can’t allow such toxic people in my life. I do not wish to see them unless major holidays for limited time. She understands but said it’s such a hard decision. I feel like I could lose her. I know ultimatums are childish but I care about her enough that I don’t want her around them. [/quote]

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