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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been living with my boyfriend of a little over a year for 2 months. I do the majority of everything around the condo. I am the one to clean, grocery shop, do laundry, etc. The only thing he does is cook ( I’m terrible at it!). I am an RN and about to start a nurse practitioner program in August. I work up to 12 hour days, only to come home and have to handle everything. My boyfriend works a lot too, but I feel everything is on me. We connect very well, and I do know he loves me. He is just messy. Every other aspect of our life is great. We have lots of great sex, have a great time together, and he is my rock. We are talking about engagement, but I have doubts. We had discussed him taking on more responsibility, but he always talks about how much he works, as if me working + starting a rigorous program soon isn’t a lot of work. I love him and feel he is the one, [b]but I don’t want a marriage of being the default person, and later a default parent.[/b] I don’t know what to do. I’ve akways dated men who were just as clean and self-sufficient as I am. [/quote]

I have bad news for you. This is the reality for 99% percent of marriages. Everyone goes to the altar talking about how they are going to split their domestic responsibilities equally, but it almost never works out that way. Men usually end up being more career focused and women end up doing more of the domestic stuff. If this is unacceptable to you then I would seriously reconsider getting married, because that's how marriage usually works -- no matter what anyone tells you.[/quote]

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