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[quote=Anonymous]Not sure if this is the right spot or even what I'm looking for here.  I guess I'm wondering if this is a problem.

Every time something bad happens for our kids, DH is so hurt.  Mostly it's normal kid stuff.  Small example - if our son loses a basketball game, DH feels sooooo sad.  He takes it much worse than our kid does.  Our other son was just diagnosed with a minor issue that causes a small but noticeable disfiguration on a part of his body that is visible, but not his face (sorry to be so cryptic, trying to maintain anonymity).  We had thought that the disfiguration was a result of something our son was doing due to anxiety, but it turns out it's genetic.  Husband has been almost distraught at the idea that our son was so anxious that he was hurting himself in this way (a good analogy would be if a kid in elementary school was sucking on his thumb so much that he caused himself to need braces; or a kid biting his nails so badly that he caused damage to his fingertips).  Now we know this wasn't caused by anxiety - yay, right? - but husband is still nearly distraught that the disfiguration likely is permanent and can't be fixed.  I'm just happy that we are dealing with a minor cosmetic issue instead of something actually serious.  DH is worried other kids will tease him although to our knowledge that's never happened.

There are other examples, but basically DH is can't stand the thought of anything bad happening to our kids.  He's got such a big heart for these kids.  I tell him that you have some adversity to develop grit; these things are life, but he's not buying it.  I pity the future  girlfriend who dumps one of our sons; I think DH would show up and give that girl a piece of his mind!  [/quote]

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