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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ex-DH married a woman he had an affair with during our marriage.  My kids do not like their stepmother, they call her "fake" and "pretentious."  As a result, they've been told on and off to "either show her respect or not come in."  So they chose not to interact with her and text their father whenever they want.

My Oldest DD has been very adamant she wants nothing to do with her stepmother.   Ex-DH does try to "make her respect the new woman", but it's gotten bad.  We had many conversations about this, she's at an age where she can make her own decisions.

Long story short:  DD made it clear she does not want the stepmother at her upcoming HS graduation.  Ex-DH is upset and says he will show up with her anyways.  DD said that she will ask security to escort her if she shows up.  I know, I have a very strong-willed child.  But it's her graduation and she is within her rights to invite or dis-invite whoever she wants.

WWYD?  [/quote]

In this situation, I would honestly counsel my daughter about choosing her battles. This feels very big to her right now, and it definitely sucks to realize that your dad truly doesn't care how you feel. But at the end of the day, what she has learned is that her father is not a person who will have her back. My advice would honestly be to tell her father that if he invites stepmother, she will not make a scene but that their relationship as he understands it is over. Because what is her end-game here? She calls security and has stepmom booted and expects to go back to texting her dad like normal the next day?[/quote]

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