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[quote=Anonymous]My DS is 13 and we have moved every three years on average.  He's quiet, tends to have 1-2 close friends rather than a bunch, and it is really rough on him.  It can take him 1-2 years to adjust, and by then we're not far from our next move.

Keys for us have been validating his feelings of grief over the old place, really close ties in our nuclear family, letting him stay in touch with friends (e.g. often by playing computer games together long distance), being in close communication with teachers, and getting him therapy when needed.  (About six months in to this move he made a comment about life not being worth it because he missed the last place too much.)  We are also now planning on staying here until he graduates from high school.  It will be a career hit for me, but is worth it for more stability for him.

What is most frustrating to me as a parent are well-meaning friends who say, "Don't worry about it.  Kids are resilient."  Or when teachers tell me that kids always have a tough 3 months at the new school and then it gets better. 
 Yes, many kids are resilient (his sister is) or will adjust after 3 months, but not all of them.  I truly hope your move goes well and your child adjusts quickly, but if not, trust your gut, and if things are still rough 5-6 months in, take your child seriously, and do what you can--including counselling--if needed. [/quote]

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